Too Often, we put ourselves last in the chain of self-care. It is critical to put your own self care first. I’ve learned this from my family, my friends and, oh so many of my clients.
Think about the last time you were on an airplane. Did you even listen to the flight attendant when she was going through safety features of the plane? Did you hear her/him say “In the case of emergency, oxygen masks may become necessary. Please place your mask on first and then assist with others.” It’s a basic example of how vital it is to take care of yourself to help others. It’s an example well known. And, one that often is used in articles like this one.
If we don’t take care of ourselves, truly no one else will. If we don’t take care of ourselves first, then others will suffer. We are heading into Father’s Day Time. Let me ask you this: What ‘father’ do you know has taken the time for self-care well? I do know some but they are few and far between. They, too often, run themselves thin. They work hard both at the office and at home. They devote 100% to their families and often don’t take the time to care for themselves. (I put father in quotes above because there is a little father in each and every one of us.)
What is self-care? It’s a combination of many, many factors. It’s taking time to eat well, be active and socialize with friends and family. How often does a ‘father’ need to simply grab a beer with a friend but doesn’t do it? How often does a ‘father’ complain of back pain and yet, won’t take the time for a half hour massage to alleviate it? How often does a ‘father’ put themselves last before all others?
Too often. Self-care is critical and it comes in all shapes and sizes. So my question to you today is “How will you put your own oxygen mask on?”